Proud of my badge …

Proud of my badge …

Getting our heads around … the Widow / er badge …

Everything changes after the loss of a partner or spouse re.

The person that featured in our past, present & future , made plans & shared concerns with, has gone … taking with them, plans, memories, inside knowledge & jokes. Common shared vested interests.

The difference is deep, detailed & misunderstood. It can only be understood once the badge is issued. It’s rather like a qualification & we must be proud of our achievements to this point.

Things look the same, roll in a similar way from the outside, however deep inside our worlds everything is a different shape, colour & texture.

Following the loss of a partner or spouse, we feel like half of us left & was replaced with a stranger.

So we not only lost them we also mislaid ourselves !

Every part of our day and routine is changed. It’s permanent & is felt 24/7.

When considering the enormity of what a widow /er has lost it would be easy to assume life was shattered beyond any sort of repair.

Lying within the sadness & the broken pieces is the acceptance that the our time together created a deep love, that will keep giving & how lucky we were.

Only we realise how lucky we are … unlucky & lucky run rather close to each other … they bump shoulders & encourage perspective, thought ….. Lucky to have loved. We create our own luck … we must get our heads around this ❤️

We continue to grow, blossom, work on our present & reimagine life.. with courage… wearing our badge with pride.

Be proud ❤️